College Roommate Rant and a Few Guidelines to Think about when Picking One Out

There is something very important to remember when choosing a college roommate. If you don't have the option to choose, make sure and find these things out quickly when you get a roommate so you can switch if needed.

I have a roommate, let's call her Sarah, and Sarah has a boyfriend, let's call him Mike. Very quickly, I learned several things I should have paid closer attention to when I suggested she and I room together. I think a roommate picked by a role of the dice would be a little better in this situation. I'm hormonal and I have a lot of needs during my pregnancy. It's hard to yell at someone you're friends with because she's insensitive to that. I've decided to write this so no one has this problem. Maybe you'll see some of these signs before you move in.

Make sure your roommate's boyfriend does not live in the dorm with her for absolutely no reason at all other than he doesn't feel the need to go home.
Mike never leaves. For the first few days, they were always at his place. I thought this was going to be an easy summer because they wouldn't be here. Wrong! Turns out they were only gone because our air conditioner was broken. Once it was fixed, they were here all the time. They never leave, either of them. Then, I was informed that he had his own spare key. Since we can't copy keys for our dorm rooms, I'm not sure how this happened, but I'm not very comfortable with it.

Set bathroom time limit rules; if she isn't ok with limiting the bath time she spends with the boyfriend to less than an hour, living with her will be miserable when you're pregnant and have to pee.
Sarah and Mike like to take baths together. They don't have sex in the bathroom, thank God, but they do sit in the bathroom for a very long time talking. It's not my business what they do in their personal lives, but when my bladder calls, I don't want to wait two hours to get in. I also think it is kind of disrespectful to be so open about it. I at least would turn the vent on so someone couldn't hear everything I said.

Find out if she and her boyfriend have a healthy relationship. Do they fight all the time? Do they have sex all the time? Both? When they share a wall with you, it's not fun to listen to them, no matter what they're doing.
So, Sarah and Mike spent the day having sex and fighting. I can hear all of it. They don't do anything to try and keep the noise down, and it occurred to me that I never hear them do anything else.

If they drink, find out how much, and make sure they can hold their alcohol. No one likes to listen to the resulting vomit of a hangover from four to nine in the morning.
This is the big one for me. I obviously cannot drink. Sarah told me when she first moved in that Mike likes to drink a lot. I lock the door to my room at night. There's no telling what he might do if he gets drunk enough. I don't appreciate them bringing so much alcohol into the dorm because of several safety reasons and because it's against the rules. If they ever get checked, I will sing like a bird about the alcohol. I'm not getting kicked out of school. Then, last night, they decided to go out to some party around midnight. At four in the morning, they came in WASTED. They were loud and horrible, but I was too tired to get up and say something. Then, twenty minutes later, the vomit ensued. What the hell? He threw up in the bathroom ALL MORNING. It wasn't just regular vomiting either. He made these horrible moaning sounds too. This lasted for almost the entire morning before it finally stopped, and, guilty as I felt later, I secretly wished he had just asphyxiated on his own vomit.Then, I left for a little while to get some food. When I came back around seven at night, he was still throwing up like that. Then, I went out with my parents for a little while. When I came home, he was here alone, drinking.

I'm about to go pre-natal on their asses and really let the hormones loose. One more incident like this, and I think I will.

PGee