Finding the Perfect Doctor

I've decided to switch doctors. My current doctor and I don't see eye to eye on some things, and I think if you're working with pregnant women, "I don't sit and wonder what I can do to make money off you even if it will hurt your baby," is an appropriate answer to ANY question.

My mom went with me to my second doctor's appointment with a question about ultrasounds. Are they harmful to the baby's ears? Now, by posting this, I do not want anyone to inform me that they are in fact, not. I have done my research and found that, while they certainly aren't as damaging now as they were in the eighties, they still are not 100% OK with the FDA because everything carries some risk of side effect. The point of all this is, it shouldn't matter if I asked the doctor how my belly button opened for the baby to come out, he should answer me nicely without sarcasm. But instead, he felt the need to turn to my mother and assure her that he knows far better than she does, then turned to me and assured me that he did not wonder how to make money and hurt babies.

I left my appointment quite upset by this. I don't know what I will have questions about later on, but what if I was in labor and had a question about something? Would he answer me the same way? This was only my second appointment so I didn't really know what kind of person he was, and they say he's one of the best doctors around, but now I know. I've decided to switch to the same doctor my cousin is going to. She loves him.

Then, the worst part came when I called the counselor that I'm seeing about all this pregnancy stuff. I told her what had happened and said I was kind of upset about it and unsure of whether or not to change doctors. She told me that my mom was way out of line for asking such a stupid question because obviously, a doctor would know what he was doing. I think she's just sticking up for him because she referred me to him. Then, she asked me what if my baby were born with ear problems? Would I love him any less? What if he had some kind of disability? What difference should it make to me? I informed her that my baby was going to be born with whatever God sees fit to give him, but it would not be because of anything I did. Then I informed her that no one would put me down for questioning any medical procedure done to me or my baby. Then, I hung up on her. I don't think I'll be talking to her anymore either.

She had decided to treat me like a complete idiot anyway. Just because you have children of your own does not make you an expert on what every woman in this world should do during her pregnancy.

PGee